Anonymous asked: I just got out of a relationship with my ex of 3 years. He started being abusive 2 year ago, but after he while he stopped. But I could never forgive him for his past actions (getting slapped, bruises, etc), that for the remaining time we were together, I would always bring up his past when the fight was getting aggressive. I feel like its my fault that I got dumped because he really was trying but I kept bringing up his past and I'm so regretful. 21/F/NY
I’m understanding this in the point of view where you were afraid of what happened could happen again. So in a way, you were defending yourself right? the MINUTE anybody lays a hand on you negatively, leave them. Your love for yourself is always so much more worth it than your love for other people. It’s NOT your fault you got dumped, I think he did you a favour. You did the right thing, don’t doubt it. Go on and find someone who’s worth your time and won’t ever hurt you.